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 Better Things (2008)
IMDB rating: 5.90
Plot: A group of young people grow up together in a small, rural community in the Cotswolds.
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Directors: Hopkins Duane
Actors: Bench Frank,Corr Che,Cunliffe Freddie,Hutt Byndley,McIlfatrick Liam,Pinner Edward,Randle Mike,Socha Michael,Taylor Kurt,Drama,
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I have chosen not to talk to my dad anymore… and I don't regret it? (Long)?
I’m 22 and I’ve been married for 2 years. I have always paid for my bills, including my student loans, on my own (or with my husband). I’m close to the rest of my family– my mom, brother, grandparents, and my in-laws. I just mean to point out that I don’t "need" my dad for any particular reason. I feel awful saying that, but here’s why:
In June, my dad admitted to me that he’d been having an affair with one of my mom’s friends and they are now going through a divorce. This summer was very, very stressful because both parents kept calling me at all hours of the day & night to complain about each other. I eventually stopped answering their calls b/c they put me under such great stress that I was unable to get pregnant or focus on anything else. I just cried all the time. They were finally getting better about it, so I started having cordial conversations with them again & even visited them both (from out of state).
About two weeks ago, I found out my dad wrote my brother & me out of his will & removed us as his beneficiaries on his life insurance policy. So this slutty bimbo that he’s been dating for one year is apparently more important to him than my brother & me who have been his family for 20-some years. I didn’t mention it (it was gossip…). The other day, he called me & started screaming, "Call your mother & tell her to leave me alone! Call her off of me! She’s acting crazy!" Well, that just really set me off. I absolutely will NOT play this game. He brought this on himself and I refuse to feel sorry for him anymore. I have things going on in my own life & I can’t handle it. Right away, I sent him a text message that said,
"How dare you do that to me? Why on earth would you drag me into this problem that YOU brought on yourself just so you don’t have to suffer through it alone?"
He never responded to it. We haven’t spoken since. I plan to hold my ground, but I wonder if I’d regret it if something happened to him… Advice? Am I wrong?
Both of your parents were totally out of line for putting you in the middle of this in the first place. Apparently your mom understood that once you drew a line in the sand and stopped taking the late-night calls. Your father continues selfishly on, only caring about what he wants, not about how it will affect anyone else.
You were absolutely correct to call him on his selfish behavior. He didn’t leave you any other choice, IMO. If I were you, I wouldn’t have any contact with him until he apologizes.
Debi | Nov 20, 2009
It seems to me this dispute is all about money. More important, I have doubts the marriage your dad is going to have with the bimbo will last for more than a few years.
I also have doubts yours will last long. Be that as it may, plan everything as if you knew yo wouldnNTneed a dad any more even if your marriage falls apart. If it is o.k. then to turn your dad away, do it.
Bulwinkle | Nov 20, 2009
just think about numbers of diapers they had to change on you, holding you in the all hours of the day and night, when you cried in your crib… not being able to do what they want, because you came first in their lives… all the sacrifices they had to make…
i agree, it’s stupid for them to put you in the middle.
but you can still show some respect.
KJ III | Nov 20, 2009
His your dad no matter if you don’t talk to him or not. Family is something you can not change, drop or forget about. Its something in your hart and your head for the rest of your life. The longer you cut him off the longer you hurt yourself and him. Im sorry, i can see were your coming from but giving up is never an option in family even if you have to be the bigger person and don’t give up on them when or if they give up on you.
Joe O88 | Nov 20, 2009
It is completely unfair of your parents to bring you in on their problems.
Your dad unfortunately is wrong on all counts. Having an affair is wrong to begin with, but to continue calling you and screaming about your mum is a disgrace.
Let him know some way, that you do love him, but his behaviour is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it any more. Let him know that you are there if he wants to be a father to you, but you are not his confidant.
With regards his will and life insurance policy (not sure if you meant you heard this as gossip), if its bothering you ask him.
Helen S | Nov 20, 2009
1.5 words. Fuck ‘em.
Scot | Nov 20, 2009
